Forgiveness to Move On

If you still think of someone and hold a grudge, or feel twinges of anger, then it means you can’t move on mentally or emotionally. You may think you’ve moved on from the person, the situation, that injury, but energetically you haven’t. And that’s okay. It takes time to process what’s gone sour, especially if you poured your heart into a relationship, a job, a friendship, a business. What’s the key to moving on?

Three things: Talking, writing and most of all—forgiving.

Talking to a therapist is like a fast track to where you want to go. Friends aren't trained to ask us insightful questions about our own thought processes. On occasion they may help, sure, but training matters. If we don't talk it out, the chatter moves to our minds which leads to internal conversations with ourselves that run the risk of going on in an addictive doom loop (especially for those with a background of trauma).

The second thing we can do is journal. Even just doing it once about what is bothering you is helpful. The key is to put all your thoughts on paper so you don't have to do the work of carrying it in your head. It's laid to rest, somewhere and you can always reference it later. It allows you to place it down and also place it outside of yourself. We can write down our feelings in other ways too—a poem, a song, a painting, a letter we never send.

The quickest path to moving on, however, is to forgive. Often, we can’t forgive all at once—it’s a process. We have to live with the aftermath of what's happened for a while, swim in its murky waters, sometimes drown in them, until we realize we don't want to die. Once we set the intention, we’ve started the process of letting go and we can come up for air.

Forgiveness is the heart’s job; the mind can only assist. If one aims for it, it may take a while, but it's usually only a matter of time before it happens because the intention is set and intention is power.

It doesn’t mean we have to have a conversation with that person, return to a bad situation, or forget the words or actions, but we can forgive in our heart. Not for them, but for us. Quantum entanglement tells us that they probably will feel that too. (It's okay, they still will learn their lesson at some point. Maybe precisely because you forgave them. It's not for you to worry about).

When we stew in anger, hurt, or resentment, it's because we've taken on the energy of those who have hurt us. Hurt people hurt people. That's how trauma is passed on.

We can reclaim our original energy, our true self, when we release the burdens, dramas and traumas of the past that we have somehow internalized so that we can move on— lighter, in the present moment, and free.

Soul-Prompt:  For whom do I carry a grudge? How is this affecting my energy now? Can I forgive them to free myself?

This refrain in this song has stuck in my Gen X brain all these years since 1989 😄